The more we try to forget someone who we still love, the more we torture ourselves, the more we think about them. Don’t try to force things, face it and accept it.
Most people advice to delete and block our ex on Facebook and other social media, and you can do that, but I know that won’t stop you for stalking them, you will probably make a fake profile just to spy on them and torture yourself. Then what is a point…
Here is what worked best for me
- TAKE YOUR TIME TO GRIEVE BUT NOT TO LONG
One, two days or a week…:) Cry, watch sad movies, write…That helped me. Don’t keep your feelings inside you.
- DO NOT RUNAWAY
I still love that guy, but there is nothing I can do. Just think how many times someone wanted to be with you but you did not…How many guys you rejected. Were you aware that you are hurting their feelings…Were you thinking about them? You might but you did not care much, and you continued your life…We can’t choose who we love, we cannot blame someone for not loving us the way we want. You cannot lose what you don’t have. ACCEPT THE TRUTH.
I didn’t block him on any social media, why should I? I don’t want to be weak. Last time I saw his picture with a girl, hugging her and saying that she is a special. Hurt as hell. All day I cried, then I thought. It’s good, I have to face the truth. When we love someone we wish them all the best, so that is exactly what I did. I am happy that he found a happiness.
Be proud of yourself
- FOCUS ON YOURSELF
Buy Agenda, write down your goals, time frame. Take some course, learn new language…Keep yourself busy…That helps a lot. Put a mask on your face, or go the spa, do something for yourself.
Go to gym or download an app and workout alone. Fitness, yoga or swimming, whatever it is, it’s great for your health, body and soul. You will look better and be more satisfied.
- ACCEPT INVITATIONS
I know you are not in the mood to go anywhere or do anything. In this case I suggest you force yourself. Go out with your friends, organize a barbecue with your family. Spend time with people you care most, talk with them, it will make you feel better.
- GO FOR A TRIP ALONE, TAKE INTERNSHIP OR VOLUNTEER
Use that time to get away and think, find yourself, enjoy nature, meet new people, make new memories.
- DO NOT FORGET TO SMILE
It can change and brighten someone’s day and make you feel good.
Laugh, watch funny videos every time sad thoughts come to your mind.
- OPEN YOUR HEART AND EYES AND NEVER STOP BELIEVING IN LOVE
We all have different lessons to learn, sometimes the hard way. But how you will face those problems, depend on your choice. Keep in mind love doesn’t hurt, hurts betrayal, one-sided feelings…Not love, love heals all wounds. Do not be scared to fall in love, it’s your lesson, go with a flow, trust a universe.
I am still in this process…as many people are…SO, YOU ARE NOT ALONE
If you still feel pity about yourself take a look of some of these documentaries…
After watching this, respond honestly. Do you still think that being heartbroken is a big deal?